Victims are not made nor
born. Becoming a victim is somehow a logical balance between destiny and
choice. According to Sykes (1992), one unfortunate
event cannot raise a victim. There must
be a fixed viscosity in the surroundings to be able to raise a victim. Once a
person became a victim, they can either turn away from being a victim or turn
into a victimizer as well (Bloom, 1999). A person doesn’t like the feeling of
being defeated, being a victim makes them feel helpless and powerless and losing
power is a pernicious human experience. According to Ruback & Schaffer (2002) old
victimization could be the best foretell of a coming victimization. Past
victimizations such as tortures, domestic violence can turn a person into a
victimizer. Moreover, to escape the shell of being helpless, the victim will
eventually find a way wherein he/she can showcase his power and without
realizing it he/she also became the perpetrator. In that way, a person can feel
satisfied and avoid the feeling of helplessness (Bloom, 1999).
Our various cultures can also trigger a victim to
turn into a victimizer. Cultures such as, “men should be stronger than women”
can create a connotation that men should be in the upper hand. The idea of men
being in the upper hand results to a connotation that men are often the
victimizers and women being the victims.
The male-dominated patriarchal system is mainly the cause why people put
all the blame and responsibility to the males for all of the unfortunate and
evil things such as wars and cases of different kinds of abuse that has been
happening in the world (Keen, 1991; Sykes, 1992; Zur, 1989; and Zur &
Glendinning, 1987). However, not all the time males are the victimizer they can
also be a victim. According to Langton, Planty & Truman (2013), males often
get victimized by a stranger.
The influence of our beliefs not only allows the
chance of being victimized, but also encourages chances of people being a
victim and a victimizer. The great impact of our culture to us can also dictate
what will happen in our lives. Our mindset about masculinity and feminism is
mainly the reason why men are more likely to be the abuser/victimizer and women
as the victims.