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TED Talk How to live a happy lifeHave you ever been depressed, sad, mad or angry? Well, so have I. And using the research I found, I became happier and more successful, and so can you.”Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.”Aristotle said this more than 2,000 years ago. And it still holds true today. What is the true purpose of life, if not to live a happy life until we die? Happiness is one of the most sought-after goals in life, yet for many it seems to be elusive. It’s easy to delude ourselves into thinking, “When I just have that nice house and new car, then I can be happy.” But in reality, happiness is available to all of us, right now. A big house or a new car won’t actually make you happier; it’s the simple joys in life that bring true happiness.A global issue these days are that people classify themselves as unhappy people. They tell themselves that they are sad or depressed just because they want to feel sorry for themselves. What this actually does is it suppresses them to actually come to a stage where they are mentally depressed and unstable. Over several internet polls and research by Psychiatrists, almost every single data says that most people are unhappy, or believe that they are. Mostly it is because it is human nature that people can’t be happy with all things that they have. They always desire more. They are unsatisfied. Recently, this problem has increased, because most people don’t understand that everyone has their own kind of problems in their life. And, today with increasing use of social media, most people post their happiest moments of their life… which is the reason that other see those posts and think that others have a perfect life with perfect friends, perfect things, and a perfect family – while they don’t. The list of why people are unhappy can continue on and on, from bullying, suicide, drugs, alcohol, social media, and more, but I am not here to tell you why we are unhappy. Instead, I am here to teach you how to solve this and become happier. I suppose we all have a passion, or something that we love doing. For me, it is volleyball, and anytime, it makes me a happier person. Which brings us to our first point – do what you love doing. Now who here enjoys doing things that they are forced? If you’re someone like me, you might’ve grown up with your parents telling you to do things you didn’t enjoy, such as: violin, art class, math, etc. These things never made me productive, fulfilled, successful, but only dreaded the class that came. On the other hand, when I started volleyball or sculpture, I became happier, and made me smile a lot. Which bring us to our 2nd point: Smile more.Smiling has been proven by many psychiatrists all over the world that each time you smile you throw a little feel-good party in your brain. The act of smiling activates neural messaging that benefits your health and happiness… The feel good neurotransmitters dopamine, endorphins and serotonin are all released when a smile flashes across your face. Your good mood will eventually affect those surrounding around you. The part of your brain that is responsible for your facial expression of smiling when happy or mimicking another’s smile resides in the cingulate cortex, an unconscious automatic response area. This creates a healthy environment for you and the people around you, making them happier as well and positively affect you. This goes to our third point of surround yourself you want to be surrounded by. I learned this a long time ago from my mom. She told me that there are certain people who aren’t worth being in your life. And though this may sound…off, it is true. If you are a victim of bullying, you definitely don’t think that the bully is worth being in your life. If you were under peer pressure, you wouldn’t want the people who negatively pressured you to be in your life. More than 77% of the world is under pressure of having negatively affected people in their life. In my personal experience, back in lower primary I used to have a few people who would tease me, or bully me during school. I was always upset when going home and didn’t want to go to school. However, once I cut them out of my life by making friends with other people, I started feel happier and enjoy school again. A lesson I learned from this is that having people you love around you will generally create a happy environment and affect your mood. Finally, the last piece of advice is to let go. Let go of trying to control everything. Let go of trying to please everyone. Let go of the sense of entitlement. Let go of resentment. Let go of guilt. Let go of pride. Let go of perfectionism. Let go of negativity. Let go of draining, unhealthy relationships. Let go of the fear of failure. Let go of expectations. Let go of yesterday and tomorrow. Remember to let go of things weighing you down, and making you feel negativity. You will feel a lot better and become a happier person.Thank you.